I've had this question forever. I'm a practicing hetero male in the Triangle. I'm wondering if a male receives oral sex from another male, does that make him gay? In light of the current revelations about the Senator from Idaho who claims he's not gay, but nonetheless has taken part in some less than straight illegal behavior, and who claims not to be gay, would I be gay, had I engaged in such behavior.
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I don’t think that having oral sex with a man necessarily means that Sen. Craig, or anyone else for that matter, is gay. But he sure isn’t straight, either.
Labels are so limiting, aren’t they? I buy into Kinsey’s theory of sexuality. He said
Males [and he came to feel this way about women, too, eventually] do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual…The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects.
While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relative amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history... An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in his life.... A seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist.
- 0--Exclusively heterosexual
- 1--Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
- 2--Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
- 3--Equally heterosexual and homosexual
- 4--Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
- 5--Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
- 6--Exclusively homosexual
I mean, please. He voted to deny gay men and lesbians the right to marry, claiming that the "sanctity of marriage" could be upheld only between a woman and a man, and all the while he's trying to cheat on his wife and hook up in a public bathroom? Yeesh.
Thanks for the question and for being such a loyal reader!